Excalibur
How did what happened change your life, at home and at work?
I was the victim of a victim.
It was all due to a deer and a decision of a fellow truck driver. I never blame that guy. He did what he thought was best. Sadly my husband ended up hitting the other big rig and we’ve ended up half a mile (or more) away from the impact. The fact that I saw my husband disfigured was traumatizing enough that for the first month he couldn’t leave my sight. Not even at the toilet. When we got out of the truck after 1 hour I told him that I would never leave him and that I will always care for him. When he was transferred by helicopter authorities wouldn’t let me in they had to restrain me in a bed in the ambulance.
It took me a while to cut the rope to make sure he was okay. In that accident I also lost a part of myself that I will never find again.
I’m still trying to figure out how me and my husband still alive when I see the picture of what was left of the truck. Was it due to speed, weakness in the other trailer weight the angle and I cannot seem to find the answer of what made us survive.
When my mom and dad got to the hospital where my husband was, they bought a wooden poster saying: Life bring you to unexpected places. Love brings you home.
When I see that poster I keep remembering the accident in full detail but I will never be able to tell my mom that.
I think I would be really tempted to hang up the keys after that. I’m glad you’re okay
I am glad that you both survived and you had each other and family .not every one is that lucky
My husband keeps saying his parents were there to help us, to protect us as guardian angels (both dead even before I met him)
It wasn’t our time and (to use his words) St-Pierre was not ready to see us at his gate.
We all search for answers when stuff happens sometimes we can find a answer but mostly we are left with questions that we will always ask ourselves. It’s what we do and sometimes it makes it tough to move on. One hope one day we find what we lost in these accidents I just don’t know but thankfully all survived.
If only I could have 1 wish.
Just wish to know why and how and what it all happened so we could all stay alive! I know they say its not always good to know everything but for this, it could help go through with it.
Victim of a victim, how that confirms the concept that an accident is not an event but rather a cluster of events with a bad outcome
Luckily no one was killed in that…not even the deer.
Sometimes I just keep wondering what would’ve happened if I didn’t stop to switch driver. I keep telling myself it could’ve been worst because I’ve been driving all night and I was tired.
That’s a powerful image – and a powerful story. You said you lost part of yourself….did you also find something that was not there before?
The part I lost will never return. Was it replaced by something else? I guess. It is hard to say yes because I did change in alot a ways but I do miss that part of me which made me more careful about everything. Now I just live 1 day at a time.